Many people have struggled in 2020 with Coronavirus being the main culprit behind the stressors. For me, 2020 has been challenging professionally as an educator during this time attempting to help staff, students, families, and coaches navigate change, while navigating change myself.
With all the professional craziness of 2020, looking back, I realized I had some personal successes. The main one being I’ve lost 50 pounds since March thanks to Intermittent Fasting, which my hair dresser introduced me to, and learning about proper nutrient timing. (I may or may not have binge watched every single video from Autumn Bates on YouTube!)
Now if you know me, you know I thrive on setting and reaching goals and creating effective and efficient systems in what I do. (Gallup StrengthsFinder says my #1 is Strategic). One of my physical goals in 2020 was to exercise at least 20 times a month for 20 minutes each time—I figured that was realistic. (I’m happy to report that I’ve exercised 363 times in 2020, compared to the 22 times I exercised in 2019 😂 #embarrassing). My other goal was to drink a 24 oz. bottle of water a day, which doesn’t seem like a lot, but I was likely only drinking one 16 oz bottle maybe every couple days. I probably drink about 32-75 oz. of water a day now, because I‘ve grown to like water haha.
To top it off, I’ve become mildly obsessed with James Clear’s “Atomic Habits”. I could talk about this all day. (If you’re wanting to make changes in your life, besides the Bible, this is my most recommended book! I listen to it on Audible every year now before the new year begins… it’s such a help in many different areas of my life.)
With 2021 just around the corner I’m excited to publicly share my new approach to goals, with a greater focus on creating good habits and sustained disciplines (thanks to Craig Groeschel’s Leadership Podcast and again, “Atomic Habits”).
For the past nine years or so I’ve created goals for the New Year in each of these categories: Spiritual, Soul, Physical, Family (Relational), and Finances.
But after learning more about “Atomic Habits” combined with some principles from Craig Groeschel’s Leadership Podcast, I’ve decided to take my systems to the next level by answering these questions:
- What’s a discipline I want to have in the specific area?
- What habit(s) should I put into practice to build that discipline?
- What is my ultimate goal in having that discipline in my life?
- What type of person do I hope my disciplines, habits, and goals shape me to be? (My identity… a big part of “Atomic Habits”)
So below is my system for 2021:
Spiritual:
Discipline: Pray every morning (focused)
Habit: After my devotional time, I will set a two minute timer to pray. (You can do anything for two minutes! I’ve already been doing this, and as expected, I often go over two minutes. Which gives me the dopamine rush that comes with accomplishment.)
Goal: Be a prayer warrior, someone people can count on to intercede
Identity: May it be said of me that I’m a spiritually mature person.
Soul:
Discipline: Journal
Habit: On Saturday mornings I will write in my gratitude journal.
Goal: To be more thankful and reflect on God’s goodness and provision in my life
Identity: May it be said of me that I’m a person who is thankful for the big things AND the little things.
Physical:
Discipline: 30-60 minute no tech time before bed
Habit: Between 8:00-9:00 p.m. I will put away technology (plug in phone, turn off TV)
Goal: Get better, deeper sleep to be refreshed and help with my wellness goals
Identity: May it be said of me that I’m a person who lives a healthy lifestyle
Relational:
Discipline: On Fridays I will write one card of appreciation a week.
Habit: Put a blank card in the Friday folder
Habit: Set a recurring alarm on my phone
Goal: To assume more positive intent and be a CEO (chief encouraging officer!)
Identity: May it be said of me that I’m a person who sees the good in others.
Financial:
Discipline: Put more money down toward debt
Habit: Pay this one RIGHT after my budgeting and tithe.
Goal: Pay off Walmart CC by Feb and BOA CC by end of year– no more CC debt!
Identity: May it be said of me that I’m a financially stable person.
So there it is. Who I’m hoping to be this upcoming year and how I’m going to grow into that person. I likely won’t be perfect at this, and I will fail. But to quote James Clear: “Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become. Majority rules.” So if I am more successful than not, I would say I’ve achieved the identity status I’m hoping for. I won’t beat myself up. I’ll try to live by the principle: never miss a habit twice in a row!
Now, I’ve been trying to get all that into words for about a month and was finally able to. Feel free to call me out or hold me accountable! And I hope you all are able to achieve your dreams in 2021!
Bonus: James Clear’s Tips for Creating Habits
- Make it easy
- Make it obvious
- Make it attractive
- Make it satisfying